It’s All About Sex

The leading secular account of the world in the West denies any normative or sacred order. Freedom is found, not in following a divine design, but in indulging the unfettered self. Self-restraint, especially erotic self-restraint, is repressive and must be eliminated. Pleasure of the strongest kind is what matters most, since we need not fear God or conform ourselves to some alien pattern of behavior written in a heaven of ideas.

Thus, any viewpoint that opposes the totally free expression of sexuality must be silenced–not refuted, silenced. On this view, free speech is not a right; in fact, it can be ruse for the repressive ones (Christians or those believe in any sacred ordering of life). Any view that denies the erotic urgencies has no right to be heard. Herbert Marcuse advocated this in 1965 in his essay on “repressive tolerance.”

Thus, it all comes down to sex. Anyone who opposes abortion in any way wants to hinder women’s sexual freedom, since abortion allows for sex without the moral responsibility to bring a child to term. The expressive self is all that matters. Killing a viable fetus at nine months is fine, since women’s sexual freedom must be upheld at all costs.

Further, it is not enough to be tolerant of people who act in non-heterosexual ways. Legalizing same sex marriage is not enough either. Rather, everyone must endorse every sexual identity, because that is the more important thing about people–their erotic orientation and the pleasure therein. If a Christian baker will not decorate a cake for a gay wedding, he must be punished by force of law, since he is refuting to endorse two gay men’s sexual identity. How dare he?

The untrammeled will, fired by uninhibited eroticism, has the final say and shouts with a loud voice. You are not allowed to disagree with this power from below, this meaning-making faculty. Eros must be let loose in a world without design or constraint.

Along the way, Rousseau, Blake, Wadsworth, Shelley, Marx, Darwin, Freud, Nietzsche, Marcuse, Reich, Simone De Beauvoir, and others play their part to make a world safe for pansexuality.

For more on these themes, see Carl Trueman, The Rise and Triumph of the Modern Self (Crossway, 2020).

15 thoughts on “It’s All About Sex

  1. Pingback: It’s All About Sex | Talmidimblogging

    • Dear Mr. Wilensky,

      Why do you mention ‘Fiddler on the Roof’? I would very much like to know what you mean. :).
      I pine for the life represented in this work – the sense of agreement of meaning, etc. Thanks.

  2. “The untrammeled will”

    We occasionally see a tempering of this in the appeal to ontology. “I’m made this way and I can’t help it, therefore you have to accept me.” This also reveals a similar shift in ontological considerations from pure material properties to some kind of immaterial construct that may or may not change depending on what a person wishes to justify at any given point. This is to say that while people may deny any kind of spiritual reality that make ethical demands on humankind, they nevertheless deny their physical reality and make an appeal to some untestable spiritual reality in order justify their particular perversion. Ontologically, they have a disconnect between the spiritual and the physical that isn’t applied consistently.

  3. From 2 John 1:
    coming of Jesus Christ in the flesh. Any such person is the deceiver and the antichrist. 8Watch yourselves, so that you do not lose what we have worked for,a but that you may be fully rewarded. 9Anyone who runs ahead without remaining in the teaching of Christ does not have God. Whoever remains in His teaching has both the Father and the Son.

    10If anyone comes to you but does not bring this teaching, do not receive him into your home or even greet him. 11Whoever greets such a person shares in his evil deeds.

    We let television, pulp fiction, bad magazines, internet porn, evil books and all sorts of things into our homes not even thinking how all this stuff will influence us because we seek to be entertained constantly. As there is less physical work around to take our time and attention that sets people up for boredom and distraction.

    We even let Alfred Kinsey get by with jump starting the Sexual Revolution from fraudulent scientific research gained through criminal means. Watch The Kinsey Syndrome on YouTube to see what he promoted around the world.

    We really do have to exert a lot of self control today because the culture is out of control today. In the end what do you really have but your own resolution to stay true to God no matter what deception this evil world tries to cast into your mind.

    People want Christians to fail but everyone really needs to take stock of what he is devoting his time, attention and resources to.

    Some interaction with the world is inevitable and necessary but it does not have to own us.
    We can learn to act more decisively and put mind over matter. All we have to do is rededicate and redirect our time, attention and resources to serving the right purposes.

    • Some how my copy and paste cut off the first sentence above.

      It should read:
      7For many deceivers have gone out into the world, refusing to confess the coming of Jesus Christ in the flesh.

  4. 1 John 4:20 If anyone says, “I love God,” and hates his brother, he is a liar; for he who does not love his brother whom he has seen cannot love God whom he has not seen.
    Did I miss something here did god say it was ok to not love people based on their sexual preferences or are we all perfectly made in his image and worthy of his love?


    • QP, why did you jump to that conclusion? I don’t think Douglas is speaking about loving people in his piece at all.

      It is more likely he means that freedom comes with responsibility.

      God bless.

    • QP, sin damages our image. How did you overlook that? God loves sinners. It does not mean that we don’t need restoring.

      Read The Reality of Sin on the ancient faith dot uk site.

      Have a blessed day!

      • And it’s this archaic belief that we, even thought we are made in his image, that we are flawed. This is the lie that the CHURCH propagates to ensure their power over us.
        It’s shameful, you and I are perfect beautiful spiritual beings.

        Much love,


    • As I understand it, not talking about this – speaking of foundational truth/meaning to undergird the dignity and wholeness of humanity. Not talking here, about not loving people who struggle w/ sin, as we all do. Even before homosexuality was a thing, a question, there existed strong emphasis, insistence, about sexual behavior. We lose so much, there is so much damage when this part of lives is disordered. Sexuality is a GIANT responsibility. Water in a babbling brook is beautiful – it cares for fish, wild life, it is refreshing, pleasant to listen to and cleansing. Let the water breach the bank and a flood of destruction occurs. Sorry, some things just have limits, without which, life would be even harder. Keep loving all tho – sinners and saints – pray for them.

  5. Here’s an old fashioned Christian idea that hardly any churches seem to teach today. We have all the feel good prosperity messages on the television but who tells you to make a covenant with your own eyes which are one of the gateways to your soul.

    Matt 6:22-23
    “The eye is the lamp of the body. So, if your eye is healthy, your whole body will be full of light, but if your eye is bad, your whole body will be full of darkness. If then the light in you is darkness, how great is the darkness!“

    Psalm 119:37 ESV

    “Turn my eyes from looking at worthless things; and give me life in your ways.”

    Job 31:1 ESV

    “I have made a covenant with my eyes; how then could I gaze at a virgin?

    Proverbs 4:23 ESV

    Keep your heart with all vigilance, for from it flow the springs of life.

    From gotquestions dot org
    Question: “What does it mean to make a covenant with your eyes?”

    Answer: In Job 31:1, Job says that he had made a covenant with his eyes—a promise not to look at something: “I made a covenant with my eyes / not to look lustfully at a young woman.” It is clear that Job was speaking about his personal purity. In defending his conduct, Job says that he worked diligently not to look at young women in impure ways.
    Job 31 includes Job’s final defense of his integrity. Here, he lists many positive things he had done to walk with integrity before the Lord. Part of living a life above reproach is avoiding lust, and an integral part of avoiding lust is controlling what the eyes are allowed to view.

    In Job 31:4 Job offers the reason he would not look at women in sinful ways: “Does he not see my ways / and count my every step?” Job understood that God sees everything we do. There is no way to hide anything from God, including our sin; if we are looking at things that we should not look at, God knows. Job sought to live his life accordingly.

    The principle of making a covenant with our eyes is a good one for us in this day of rampant pornography. Like Job, we are to live knowing that God sees everything we do. This includes our thoughts and actions. From entertaining lustful thoughts to stealing lascivious looks to other sexual actions outside of marriage, the idea that God sees everything we do should serve to purify us. “Nothing in all creation is hidden from God’s sight. Everything is uncovered and laid bare before the eyes of him to whom we must give account” (Hebrews 4:13).

    Jesus also addressed the issue of how we use our eyes: “You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall not commit adultery.’ But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart” (Matthew 5:27–28). The Pharisees of Jesus’ time focused on pure living, including keeping the Ten Commandments and its command not to commit adultery. However, Jesus spoke not only to the command but also to the motivation behind the command—God desires purity of heart. God’s standard is higher than ours. It’s not just the letter of the Law that God cares about but the spirit in which it’s kept.

    James 1:27 says that religion that God accepts as “pure and faultless” includes “keep[ing] oneself from being polluted by the world.” Part of being “unpolluted” in this world would have to involve maintaining a pure thought life.

    Sexual purity is an important aspect of the Christian life. “Do not offer any part of yourself to sin as an instrument of wickedness, but rather offer yourselves to God as those who have been brought from death to life; and offer every part of yourself to him as an instrument of righteousness” (Romans 6:13). “Every part of yourself” includes the eyes. In many ways, our eyes function as gates to the mind, and we must be vigilant gate-keepers to avoid admitting sin. Job made a promise to himself to guard his eyes around women, and his example is worthy of emulation.

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